ALL FEELINGS are OK, as long as WHAT we DO with them 
doesn’t HURT or HARM anybody else or get us into trouble.
All levels have been talking about feelings and these are some of their responses:
Your body will give you signs if you are getting upset, angry, annoyed, anxious or even over excited eg. headaches, shaking, a sore throat, can’t sleep, blushing, sweating, 100% overheated, frowning, butterflies in tummy, pounding heart, shaky voice, dry mouth, feel sick, need to go to the toilet, feel hungry etc.
……and you FEEL like you want to: explode like a volcano, run around, punch something, be silly and noisy, be a bad person, boss someone, squeeze something, sleep, kick something, run away, break something, push, swear, jump, have my own time and space, scream, tell someone, punching something, rip something….
You will need to STOP and THINK
Will my actions hurt anyone? Will they calm me down or make it worse? What SHOULD I do?
Calming yourself down is the best way to go BEFORE doing anything that may cause harm. Take deep breathes, count to ten, tell the person, ‘Stop, I don’t like it.’, walk away, talk to someone in your support team, meditate, go outside, go to somewhere quiet, to your peaceful place, do something active, hit a punching bag or your pillow, jump on the trampoline, read, lie down, listen to music …… THEN your mind will be clearer to make GOOD decisions about what you should do.
How will other people behave towards you if you are not the BOSS of your FEELINGS?
….annoyed, scared of you, angry, tease you, not want to be your friend, ignore you, not respect you, upset with you, frustrated, they will think you are not worthy, unfriendly, they will boss you around, irritated, agitated, follow you, call you names, won’t trust you …
How will YOU feel about yourself?
(alone, unhappy, sad, mad, depressed, stressed, tired, bad, stupid, bored, frustrated, angry, moody, weird, hate yourself, not responsible, …)
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