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Problem Solving Toolboxes

Admin — Mon, 10 Sep 2018 11:21:45 +0000

Problem Solving Toolboxes

by Barb Bellesini

We have been looking at how we automatically react to different situations, and wondering if we are doing the right thing?

Children learn by example– which Toolbox do WE use? Can we change and learn together?

Which Problem Solving Toolbox do you naturally go to first?

(These are inspired by Lindy Peterson’s STOP DO THINK program in Hawker and Brownlows’ Cognitive Behavioural Training)

The AGGRO Toolbox: Kicking, screaming, yelling, hitting, swearing, punching, slapping, shouting.

When you use these tools you usually get angrier and so do those around you. So is it a good choice??

The WEAK Toolbox: crying, sulking, complaining, dobbing, whining.

When you use these tools, it doesn’t help the problem go away, and you will still feel bad.

The COOL Toolbox: Look at the person, talk about the problem, say ‘I don’t like it when…’ (in an assertive NOT passive or aggressive way), ignore it or walk away, make a deal, ‘Ok, you can do that for a while if I can…’

When you use these tools, they can start to FIX the problem. You choose to start thinking, and once you do you will find there are many, many ways to solve the problems.

Think of at least 3 ways to solve your problems and use the best way. Soon you’ll be able to think of hundreds of ways to solve things. Be great inventors and problem solvers!!

The world will be a better place if we ALL use the COOL Toolbox most of the time. If you forget and use the wrong tools, say SORRY and then try the right tools!!

Which Toolbox will you reach for next time there is a problem?

ePoster Breathe Act Think

Control your Feelings

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Acts Of Kindness

Admin — Wed, 21 Feb 2018 11:31:15 +0000

http://picasion.com/gl/8VSh/ by Barb Bellesini

It was Random Acts of Kindness Day on Feb 17th. What did you do??

Have YOU performed an Act of Kindness today? Have YOU shown kindness to someone else today??

Each child from grade one to six, chose an Act of Kindness to carry out over FOUR weeks. They were expected to do it at least once a day. Some have chosen actions that can be performed more than once a day.

The idea is to make them more aware of how they are treating others and how they are being treated. We read a book about ‘Filling’ each other’s ‘Invisible Buckets’ and how doing acts of kindness to others, actually helps to fill our own bucket as well. When our bucket is full, we are happy, when it is empty, we are sad.

Some of the Acts of Kindness, how the children FELT doing the action and how the recipients felt are listed below. Some of my favourites are: Act: give a hug a day even when I feel angry How they felt: I felt like I am good! Recipients feelings: ‘Phew, I don’t have to nag her!’ (This child did her homework without being asked and imagined what her mum was thinking!)

The grade 6 children made some posters to put around the school to remind people to be kind to others.

http://picasion.com/gl/8VSi/

Some of the ACTIONS
Make my bed; smile more; help people; help set the table; help cook dinner; get up when the alarm goes; go to bed when I’m told; get ready on time; give a compliment; do the dishes; empty the dishwasher; clean my room without being told; play with my brothers and sisters, don’t fight with them; clean my room; spend more time with my family; put my clothes in their place; give a fruit salad massage; listen; fold the socks; help tidy the house; do my chores without being asked; fed the dog or cat; or clean up after the dog; play with people; help people with problems; pray for people; give a hug a day even when I feel angry; help parents around the house.

How does it FEEL?

Juniors: Happy; bored (they didn’t like making their bed!!); great; OK; I enjoyed it; helpful; terrible (When they forgot and fought with their sibling!); normal; good about this activity because people liked it!; like I am good!; nice and helpful; it was really easy but it was hard!; I was happy when I did it; disappointed because I didn’t do it much (I forgot); very happy; really tired but happy; it was fun; I was a bit busy; really great; tired and very, very good; I liked this activity because I like doing chores sometimes; this activity made me less tired (I went to bed when mum said!); I felt like helping everyone; I felt like I loved everyone; good doing this activity because I helped my mum and it helped her a lot; good because I’m used to it (Now gets out of bed with the alarm!); I felt happy and I care about people; really happy and it was easy; I loved it; it made me feel good; it was fun

Middles: My bucket filled up every time; good because my mum praised me; happy because I saw everyone smile; good because I got to help my family; that I should listen; I felt weird; good and happy playing with my cat; playing with my brother was hard; happy when I got to talk to them again; fantastic; really happy to make people feel nice and happy; confident to do what I chose; weird and helpful; better and I also felt like I was making my family happier; mine could have been better; I forgot to do it; caring happy; happy to know my sister and brother were happy; terrible because I didn’t do it much; dumb; very, very, very, very, VERY happy!

Seniors: Very pleased with myself; I feel better; I wasn’t late for school; really helpful; sometimes I didn’t want to help but I did; a bit confused; I don’t see the point; really good to help others; I felt I could do a more meaningful action; happy for the challenge ahead of me; good because I was helping mum; like I was making mum work not as hard; it was hard at some stages; I was kinder to my brother; better and happier and I got along with people better; pretty good sometimes I didn’t want to do it but I pushed myself; happier because my mum was happy; good because I’m making someone happy; cheerful; A little proud I felt like I filled someone’s bucket; happy because I am encouraging my peers and family; tidy and organized; good when I was complimenting others; like I was helping instead of doing my own thing; proud of myself; good because I did it for the family; easier because you get used to it; I thought it made other people feel good; happy to help my parents; very happy when my bucket got full; not very well I think I could have done better.

How did your family / others feel?

Good because they don’t have to do it for me; Happy because they all gave a laugh and a smile; I think my family felt happy; happy because I’m going to bed; my brother is thankful and so is my cat; I think they tried to keep up the good work which was making them happy; good that I made my bed in the morning and say goodnight.

“Phew; I don’t have to nag her!’ shocked; they felt happy because I was doing it; OK; pleased; happy and shocked.

Happy because they felt encouraged; relieved, less stressed; good because it took off the amount of work mum had to do; good because my parents didn’t have to tell me to do it every day; I think everyone was very excited; like they didn’t have to do much; good because they could relax; happy because other people get compliments; relaxed more; 100% good inside! I think when I was quiet they enjoyed it; good because she was getting a hug from me every day.

They smiled when I helped them; Good because they didn’t have to wake me up and my brother and I wouldn’t be late for school; they felt relaxed; not as rushed and thankful!!!; helped happy and not stressed as much; grateful; confused like me; Good because I don’t usually play with her; I’m sure they liked my little idea; the other person felt brilliant; like they had more time to rest; pleased with me; I think other people would enjoy being with me more;

Fill someone’s bucket today!!

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Filling Your Invisible Bucket

Admin — Sat, 10 Feb 2018 11:38:18 +0000

Filling Your Invisible Bucket

By Barb Bellesini

All levels are reviewing or learning about how to ‘fill each other’s invisible bucket’s.’ This makes them feel better about themselves and others. When you fill someone else’s bucket, you also fill your own. Read: ‘Fill a Bucket’ and ‘Have you Filled A Bucket Today?’ by Carol McCloud.

SOME WAYS TO

glitter maker

Give compliments Smile

Let people play Give hugs

Make someone LAUGH Share

Be Aware of others feelings

Help someone Use manners

SHARE Give a cuddle

Let people PLAY Be Fair

Listen Do an Act of Kindness

Speak Kindly Say hello

Ask How are You? Have fun

Fill someone’s bucket today…… and tomorrow….. and the next day …… ?

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Make a Difference

Admin — Tue, 26 Sep 2017 10:44:31 +0000

Every one of us can make a difference to those around us. When you treat people kindly, then your action will be like the ‘Butterfly Theory,’ it starts small, then it keeps spreading and spreading, and having an effect on many.

Here is a story which was shared with the Seniors, of a young man who made a difference. Each student was then given a Starfish with ‘I make a difference’ on it, to remind them of the difference they make in every encounter with others.

A DIFFERENCE
There was once a young man at the beach,
He appeared to be dancing before the waves breaking on the shore,
A curious Wise Man was watching him- he approached
and asked the young man,“What are you doing?”
“The tide brings the Star Fish onto the sand and the sun
comes up and they burn, I am throwing the Star Fish
back into the ocean,” the young man replied.
“But young man,” said the Wise Man, as he looked
up and down the beach, “There are thousands of Star Fish,
you won’t make any difference.”
The young man bent down, picked up a Star Fish
and threw it into the ocean, He said to the Wise Man,
“Yes, but I made a difference to that one!”
Anon

Big or small:

ePoster Positive Thought of the Week

Compliments Fill our Bucket

ePoster Don’t be a Bystander

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Ways to ‘Dis-empower’ a Bully

Admin — Tue, 12 Sep 2017 10:36:05 +0000

How can we Dis-empower Bullies??

Bullying is hurtful, if you let it go on, it can change your life. If you are Cyber Bullied or someone bullies you in person, there are ways to help and ways to stop it. You can help yourself and/or you can have others who see it happening help you.

Remember that bullies have often been bullied themselves, could be lonely with few friends, and often have a very low self-esteem– THEY need your help as well as the Victim!

Here are some of the ways the Gr 3-6 students thought of to

TALK– say Stop I don’t like it ;

WALK– walk away from the situation;

TELL– Tell an adult and ask for help

For CYBER BULLYING

SAVE– Print, screen shot, take a pic of the Cyber message for Evidence;

BLOCK– Block, delete and Report the contact;

TELL– tell an adult, show them your evidence, ask for help.

Stand up for the Victim

Step back

Ignore them

DON’T Cyber Bully or bully back

Show the evidence

Write the bully a kind letter, (telling them things that you like about them)

Change their mind

Don’t be a bystander

Get them to join in with you

Build victims confidence- talk to them, get them to play with you

Build the bullies self esteem – tell them about good things they can do, invite them to play with you, be kind to them- you might find they become kinder as well!

Use humour

Listen to both sides- ask Why they are bullying? How can we fix this?

Help to stop the fight

Be nice to them

Be friends with the person being bullied, stand up for them, play with them

Tell them something good about themselves

Don’t be a bystander, get others to help

Ignore and be friends again

Tell your teacher and mum and dad

Invite them to your place to play

Invite them to your birthday party

How will you Dis-empower and help both the Victims and Bullies????

ePoster Don’t be a Bystander

Bullying TALK WALK TELL

ePoster Cyber Bullying

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Filling each other’s ‘Invisible Buckets’

Admin — Tue, 05 Sep 2017 10:28:15 +0000

We all have an ‘invisible bucket.’ When it is full we are HAPPY, but when it is empty we are SAD. To fill someone’s ‘invisible bucket’ and make them happy, you need to be kind to them. Whenever you fill someone’s bucket, you also fill you OWN bucket.

We read ‘Fill a Bucket’ and Have You Filled a Bucket Today? by Carol McCloud and Katherine Martin

Here are some of the ways the Preps came up with to fill each other’s buckets.

Can you think of any other ways to Fill a Bucket?

Other resources: go to https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5R6-2m_qHk to watch a ‘Bucket Filling’ story and there is a cute ‘bucket’ song at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WaddbqEQ1NE

HAPPY BUCKET FILLING!!

ePoster Compliments Fill Our Bucket

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