We have been looking at how we automatically react to different situations, and wondering if we are doing the right thing?

Children learn by example– which Toolbox do WE use? Can we change and learn together?

Which Problem Solving Toolbox do you naturally go to first?

(These are inspired by Lindy Peterson’s STOP DO THINK program in Hawker and Brownlows’ Cognitive Behavioural Training)

The AGGRO Toolbox: Kicking, screaming, yelling, hitting, swearing, punching, slapping, shouting.

When you use these tools you usually get angrier and so do those around you. So is it a good choice??

The WEAK Toolbox: crying, sulking, complaining, dobbing, whining.

When you use these tools, it doesn’t help the problem go away, and you will still feel bad.

The COOL Toolbox: Look at the person, talk about the problem, say ‘I don’t like it when…’ (in an assertive NOT passive or aggressive way), ignore it or walk away, make a deal, ‘Ok, you can do that for a while if I can…’

When you use these tools, they can start to FIX the problem. You choose to start thinking, and once you do you will find there are many, many ways to solve the problems.

Think of at least 3 ways to solve your problems and use the best way. Soon you’ll be able to think of hundreds of ways to solve things. Be great inventors and problem solvers!!

The world will be a better place if we ALL use the COOL Toolbox most of the time. If you forget and use the wrong tools, say SORRY and then try the right tools!!

Which Toolbox will you reach for next time there is a problem?

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